Kids and Social Networks: A Parent’s Guide

Kids and Social Networks: A Parent’s Guide

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Technology for parents & kids: Hints, tips, online safety strategies & more.

This may be obvious to some, but a surprise to others: Adults and kids use Facebook very differently.  While adults are very tuned into accepting friend requests from only those that truly are their friends, kids are far more likely to use the social network to connect to other kids they barely know. Either way, it’s important that parents know about kids and social networks, and how to ensure that proper rules of Internet and online safety are observed.

Important to consider: For many parents and adults the appeal to a service like Facebook is the number of connections they have. For kids that’s sometimes a big turn off.  We’ve talked to a few tweens and teens who are on Facebook because all their friends are, but that tell us they don’t like to update or “use” the social network for the exact same reason – because all their friends are on it.  So they’re constantly searching for other services which allow them to connect to the friends they want to in other ways.

So find out which services your kids and are using, and if you’re not already using them, you need to start, or at the very least have a firm understanding of how these social media platforms and how kids can use them.  As a benefit, this also may provide some common ground for discussions with your teens, a time when having conversations that involve more than grunts or talking about how they’re hungry can be a rare and precious occasion. But at the same time, you need to know your boundaries when it comes to following your kids online.  So refrain from posting to their wall on Facebook, or don’t follow their friends on Facebook.  One good idea is to use social networks to connect to your kids’ friends’ parents.  It’s another great way to foster community connections and create a sense of safety around kids activity.

Oftentimes kids’ unspoken rules involve how to use Facebook how they want to DESPITE the fact they’re connected to you.  There are detailed instructions easily accessible via Google offering kids tips on “how to friend your parents without sacrificing your privacy,” which essentially comprise a step-by-step guide for kids on how to set up their privacy controls before accepting your friend request so they can continue to post information without you seeing it, even if you’re friends.

According to one recent survey, 80 percent of teens have admitted to posting content to Facebook that they’ve hidden from certain friends and/or parents by using privacy settings.  So be aware that just because you’re connected doesn’t mean you’ll see anything.  In fact, posts being hidden from parents is what led to this incident in which a Texas Dad shot his daughter’s laptop on a YouTube video in order to teach her a lesson.  Although you may not agree with his tactic, this incident provides a great conversation point for you and your teens about appropriate behavior.

Monitoring your teens’ Facebook accounts is only part of the choice as well: You must also figure out how often you’ll be checking in.  In the October 2010 TrustE survey, 72 percent of parents surveyed said they monitor their teens’ accounts, with 50 percent of these parents monitoring weekly, 35 percent daily and 10 percent monthly.   Figure out what’s right for your family, and have an open and honest dialogue with your teens about how you’ll be checking in.

A few other tips to remember:

  • It’s not nice to talk about people behind their back, and many families also operate by the old saying “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”  So make sure your kids understand not to engage in negative banter about others, or don’t post pictures that they wouldn’t post themselves.
  • Don’t assume that everything is automatically set just how you want it in terms of privacy settings on social networks.  Go in and make sure all your updates, photos and more are visible to your friends only on Facebook or other social media services such as Google+. Consider setting up a family group to allow you all to share information among each other without broadcasting it to everyone else.
  • If you’re feeling overwhelmed, use the Help section.  All these networks have extensive, easy-to-understand and searchable help sections, too, so if you don’t know how to do anything, you can look it up pretty easily.
  • Bring the dialogue into real-life.  Talk to your teens about social networks.  Whether it’s about a specific funny status update or article you saw to general feelings about the service and current events, using the social network as a starting point can lead to great conversations with your kids.

When Should You Buy Kids Cell Phones?

When Should You Buy Kids Cell Phones?

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It’s the most common question about kids and technology that we’re asked as high-tech parenting experts: At what age should you buy your kid a cell phone or smartphone? The answer: Unfortunately, as we recently explained to Parenting magazine, there’s no magic number – it’s largely a function of family need, children’s maturity level and both how well-equipped that you feel your children are to make good decisions and the safety tools that you’ve put in place to catch them if they should stumble.

However, in the interest of provide a succinct answer that will be of the most service, let’s see if we can summarize. In short, while it won’t be right for every household, many parents first introduce a cell phone to kids around age 13. While some households lean a little younger, this is a fairly reasonable starting point if you’re looking for an opening guideline. That said, when you really should introduce a mobile device to kids’ lives is when there’s actually a meaningful, pressing need – e.g. when they’ll be outside of easy contact, and you absolutely, positively need to keep in contact with them, or be able to communicate on-demand should an emergency arise.

A few other points we share with parents when speaking on this topic:

  • Consider buying a cell phone that dials only your contact number if and when kids need to come home alone. Prepaid cell phones can also let you limit call times and features, restrict Internet usage, prevent access to unwanted features, and monitor overall usage, and usage patterns.
  • If you’re concerned about receiving unexpectedly large bills, or kids’ Internet activity, opt out of texting or endless data plans and choose a basic feature phone that forgoes bells and whistles such as downloadable apps, unlimited Web browsing and GPS tracking to limit children’s online interactions.
  • Always read the manual, research and go hands-on with phones, smartphones, tablet PCs or any high-tech device that provides VoIP or digital calling functionality before you hand them over to children. It’s imperative to know the ins and outs of the cell phone you’re considering for your child before you give it to him or her – a good rule of thumb for any high-tech device for that matter.
  • Consider restricting cell phone usage to only taking place in your presence until kids are mature enough to handle calls, texting and online interactions on their own.
  • Be certain to monitor cell phone activity and usage, and review your bill regularly for suspicious calls, activity or communications made when mobile handsets are supposed to have been shut down, e.g. 3AM on a Tuesday night.

For more information on kids and cell phones, including some of the latest statistics and other digital parenting experts’ input, check out our friends at Parenting magazine, and the in-depth look they provide on the subject.

Best Free Smart Phone Anti-Virus Programs

Best Free Smart Phone Anti-Virus Programs

Technology is synonymous with viruses, unfortunately, and just like home computers, our smartphones aren’t totally immune from the undesirable creatures that lurk in the digital jungle. In many regards, in fact, our cell phones now function like small PCs: They’re remarkably convenient, they’re capable little machines, and you need to protect them from viruses and malware. Luckily, there several of the best smartphone anti-virus programs are free, and will work hard to keep your handset safe. 

Note that for iOS mobile device users, you have less to worry about if you have an iPhone (or an iPad, or any iOS device from Apple) that’s not jailbroken. Apple keeps tight restrictions on what becomes available for download in its App Store, which means that worms, malware, viruses and Trojans aren’t as likely to slip through. The situation is different if your phone is jailbroken (meaning the iOS device has been modified to allow for greater user control, including introducing installation alternatives that let you download application without visiting the App Store). Jailbroken iOS hardware is more susceptible to viruses.

You will definitely want to consider a mobile phone antivirus software program if your phone is an Android model too. Though Google makes efforts to keep viruses and malware out of Google Play (formerly the Android Marketplace), Android app developers have far fewer restrictions on what they can develop and upload to the marketplace. On one hand, this allows developers to exercise more creative freedom than what’s possible on the App Store. On the other hand, this makes it easier for troublemakers to do their thing. Though Google’s “Bouncer” service automatically scans Google Play for viruses, it’s not foolproof, so if you own an Android phone, you should still be vigilant. 

There are several free ways you can protect your mobile phone from viruses and malware:   

Avast! Free Mobile SecurityAvast!’s free browser anti-virus is a popular name in computer protection, and that favorable reputation extends to its mobile anti-virus offering as well. Avast!’s mobile security provides protection against malicious downloads, and users can also install anti-theft features, a web shield, and take advantage of a privacy report. 

IKARUS Mobile Security LiteIKARUS Lite provides free and thorough protection against mobile viruses, spyware, malware, and Trojans. Moreover, it’s resource efficient (so it won’t bog down your phone), and its interface is user-friendly. 

Lookout Mobile SecurityLookout’s free security protects you from malicious software, and it also provides features that let you secure your device and manage/back up your data using the web. Furthermore, you can utilize Lookout to help you find your phone if its lost, and/or remotely wipe out data if the worst happens. 

Kaspersky Mobile SecurityKaspersky provides free virus scan and free malware removal tools for Android, Blackberry, Symbian, and Windows Mobile phones. For ease of use, you can search for your phone’s model on the Kaspersky website. 

Dr. Web Mobile Security SuiteYou can trust a doctor, right? Dr. Web is light, user-friendly, and will even protect your phone against unknown threats. You can also use the program to protect against unwanted incoming calls. Dr. Web Mobile Security Suite is available for Android, Symbian, and Windows Mobile. 

For more information on how to protect your smartphone from viruses, visit: 

Don’t Get Faked by Android Anti-Virus Apps on CNET

What’s the Best Android Anti-Virus? on PCAdvisor

 

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